Tough Topic

It has been a long time since I’ve posted, but I have a raw, deep topic percolating that needs to be written out for my own brain’s sake.

I don’t know what to think about this particular topic that seems to be resurfacing in my life lately on a rather regular, persistant basis.


There have been a couple of ladies on blogs I follow, who have recently stated things about how they believe regarding this issue, and they are dedicated Christians. They are also very much not thinking the way most of us do on the topic. I disagree with them. But I’m not sure how to verbalize what I believe and why I believe it.

I find myself somewhat shaken by it all. I still believe it’s wrong. I don’t feel saying it’s wrong is being judgmental. No more than one is being judgmental by saying it’s wrong to murder. As a Bible-believing Christian, I believe that God has made it very clear that there are many ways that we have perverted His creation. Homosexuality is one of those ways.

I believe it’s a very complicated topic. I believe that people who identify as gay/lesbian/bi-sexual/transgendered have been hurt by society’s rejection of them. I believe they deserve respect and security as much as anyone else. They should not have to worry about walking anywhere, thinking they might be beaten. They should be able to have jobs. I do NOT believe they deserve special treatment, such as parades, or re-defining traditional meanings of words or institutions. I do believe that they have choices. I’m not sure how it works when one says they are a “gay Christian.” I do not believe that if they are actively engaging in a relationship, that they qualify for church leadership.

I am not saying I’m perfect. I’m not saying I’ve got it all together. These statements are often thrown back at anyone who speaks against living a homosexual lifestyle.

I do know that there is irony in how adamant folks who support “that” side are in their arguments – how they use strong language like “idiots” and “hate” and so-on – and yet were those of us on “this” side to use such words, we’d be immediately condemned as using “hate speech.” “They” want “us” to be open-minded, yet as soon as they find out what you think, they shut down. They listen long enough to find out if you think it’s ok or wrong, then they’re done listening.

I do NOT want my daughters growing up questioning whether or not they are really meant to marry a man, or my boys wondering if they’re really girls. It’s not natural. It’s weird. I want them to be who they were created to be!

I think that there is a falling of our nature, that we all have been born into sin, and unfortunately for some, the temptation of living a homosexual lifestyle latches on and wins. I’m not sure that I think they choose the feelings of attraction any more than a married man finds himself attracted to his secretary at work, but everyone is responsibly to make choices that follow the will of God. I do believe the will of God is for males to be male, and females to be female, and that they are to be joined in marriage to the opposite gender.

I do have a question that I have had brewing for quite some time. Can one believe that one is born a homosexual (genetically speaking), and also believe in evolution? I’ve never been able to get my head around that one. Cause it just doesn’t work.

Anyway, if anyone reading has any insights, please help. I know we are called to love. However, you can be loving, and still say something is sinful. That’s what Jesus did. Didn’t He always say, “Go, and sin no more,”? That shows me that He was loving by forgiving and healing the individuals, but He recognized that they were indeed sinning, and it needed to stop.

Tough topic.